I Wonder Why...

Suicide......

Each one of us will have varying opinions about the above....Some may say that people who commit suicide are cowards.....Some agree with the theory of each suicide victim being somewhat mentally unstable....Some even compare suicide to murder...murder of one's own self.....



Several suicide cases have been bought into our notice...
Every year, almost one million people die from suicide; a "global" mortality rate of 16 per 100,000, or one death every 40 seconds...In the last 45 years suicide rates have increased by 60% worldwide....In fact...On average a suicide occurs every 17 minutes!
Suicide happens to be the 5th leading cause of death for young people aged 5-14....and second leading cause of death among college students...
Apart from this...There are approximately 750,000 suicide attempts each year.
Among the methods used....firearms are the most common....Followed by hanging,strangulation,suffocation,drowning,poisons.....even methods such as burning oneself...alive.
A sad statistics chart indeed.....




However.....Ever wondered what leads people to commit suicide?
What must be going on in their minds as they actually take their own lives?
What pushes them to take such a drastic step?



Various psychologists,psychiatrists...and other people dealing with humans......have put forward possible steps that leads a person to commit suicide......
They are....

1) Severe disappointment.
 First, you experience severe disappointment. You set your standards, and your circumstances fall far below those expectations. Maybe it’s that your expectations were too high; maybe it’s that you’re just going through a lot of setbacks in your life. Regardless, you’re in the midst of severe disappointment. 

2) Self-blame.
You blame yourself for all of the disappointment in your life. As a result of your miserable circumstances, you begin to “demonize” yourself, heaping the blame on your own shoulders. Part of this demonization means developing a deep hate for yourself, characterized by low self-esteem and self-worth. 

3) Self-absorption.
You become entirely obsessed with your own inability to measure up to the standards that you have set up. You turn inward, shutting out those around you. When you face the pressure to commit suicide, your battle is not against the people in your life who have hurt you; it is against your perceptions of yourself.

4) Depression and anxiety.
Here, you experience “negative affect,” meaning that you experience negative emotions related to your disappointment. Severe depression or a sense of anxiety sets in. We use others’ standards to compare ourselves, and we experience deep anxiety when we fail to meet those expectations. This anxiety, too, can translate into suicidal thoughts.

5) Cognitive deconstruction.
In this phase, your brain breaks down your life into easy-to-understand thoughts. This step of suicide involves an “escape from meaningful thought,”. This is why suicide is so dangerous to contemplate—thinking about the big questions only reminds you of your depression, and so you enter a sort of “emotional deadness” instead. This deadness is a big part of how suicide progresses. 
6) Disinhibition
Your brain has turned off “deep” thoughts about how your death would affect those you love or how suicide may be “wrong,” your brain has finally accepted that to commit suicide may be your best escape from depression


I personally am not satisfied with the explanations given by people about suicide....
I mean,try putting yourself in the shoes of a person who is actually on the verge of  committing suicide.......
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....Do you feel pressurized?...or depressed??or lost..?Do you feel that life is simply like a horrible nightmare and you don't want to live it anymore??Are you able to understand why....?

Are you able to empathize with the hypothetical person in the scenario??

It's hard right?
It's like a mystery in itself.....a deep ...unsettling mystery........ 

Here is something that Susanna Kaysen wrote......

“Why did she do it? Nobody dared to ask. Because - what courage! Who had the courage to burn herself? Twenty aspirin, a little slit alongside the veins of the arm, maybe even a bad half hour standing on a roof: We've all had those. And somewhat more dangerous things, like putting a gun in your mouth. But you put it there, you taste it, it's cold and greasy, your finger is on the trigger, and you find that a whole world lies between this moment and the moment you've been planning, when you'll pull the trigger. That world defeats you. You put the gun back in the drawer. You'll have to find another way.

What was that moment like for her? The moment she lit the match. Had she already tried roofs and guns and aspirins? Or was it just an inspiration?

I had an inspiration once. I woke up one morning and I knew that today I had to swallow fifty aspirin. It was my task: my job for the day. I lined them up on my desk and took them one by one, counting. But it's not the same as what she did. I could have stopped, at ten, or at thirty. And I could have done what I did do, which was go onto the street and faint. Fifty aspirin is a lot of aspirin, but going onto the street and fainting is like putting the gun back in the drawer.

She lit the match.” 



What do you think??Is suicide the fault of the  person committing it...or is the situation,surroundings and people around to be blamed?What's your take on the subject....?

Well...I guess people like these just need some support...and hope...
In case you do do happen to know someone like this.....don't cease to help them....
If you can save a life...then why not do so?

And in case there is anyone reading this...who actually found suicide compelling and was going to go forward with it...........DON'T!
Life may seem bad,unfair...unpleasant......weird........But guess what?You aint the only one who thinks that way .....everyone feels so at some point or the other....escaping from troubles once and for all is no answer to your problems......I hope you realise that....... :)



―I'll end with a quote by  Lucius Annaeus Seneca ......

“Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.” 


Till next time......Adios...... :)